I recently got back from a weeklong trip to Kauai that was lovely.  It included spending a lot of time with my girlfriend’s cousins and aunties, eating lots of delicious food, and getting an excellent local-style experience.  On one of the last days we drove to the north end of the island, to the end of the road.  You can’t drive any further, but you can hike the famous Na Pali Coast trail from there.

We only had time for a short hike, and we made it to this vista point — the first point where you could view both sides of the coast.  It was very windy.  We were greeted by a stunning scene once we arrived.  Hikers coming back down the trail were muddy, and even though the trail was wet in a lot of places, we stayed relatively clean in our short hike.  If we had the time, I would have liked to have gone further, to the waterfall, to the beach, but that will have to be saved for another time.

Finding vantage points where we can see things we haven’t seen before is a good goal to have I think, both in terms of physical places, and also in the realm of how we interact with others and ourselves.  It might be a real slog sometimes, and we might get muddy and scraped up, but the rewards of increased perspective and awareness is worth it to persevere and keep going.

Where are we heading, and are we taking the time to appreciate the new viewpoints that our path presents?  Where the path goes isn’t maybe the whole point, but how we get there is.  Joy, happiness, contentment, even in the face of challenges, is how I want to live my life.  One step at a time.

Where is your path leading?

Excited for the day

This was my first time doing the Three Bridge Fiasco race — a single or double-handed race around 3 marks in the Bay: Blackaller Buoy near the Golden Gate Bridge, Treasure Island (Bay Bridge) and Red Rock (Richmond Bridge).  Jason and I did the race on his Cal 29 “TNT” and it was outstanding.  We went clockwise around the course, going from the start line to Red Rock to Treasure Island to Blackaller to finish.  Our official finish time was 14:13:14.

Video of the start of the race from Jason’s GoPro:

Results: We finished 20th out of the 44 boats in our division, and #174 out of the total of 357 boats (monohull and multihull) registered for the race.  252 boats actually completed the race this year, scoring us in the 73rd percentile of finishers.  If we include the boats that didn’t start or finish the race, we scored in the 51st percentile.  Not too bad for our first double-handed race, the first race TNT had done, and both of our first Three Bridge Fiasco race experience.

Jibeset Results:

Fleet Assignments (#20 out of 44 entrants)
Overall Results (#174 out of 279 double-handed monohull entrants)

Jason’s write-up:

http://cal29berkeley.wordpress.com/2013/01/28/three-bridge-fiasco/

Forecast for the race

Motoring to the start line

Jason driving TNT

Excited for the day

Tasty coffee on the way

Main sheet

Main sheet

Primary winch

Bowline in the mainsheet

Approaching the city

Angel Island – nice slick right next to it!

On our way!

Motoring…

Our start time

San Francisco – Beautiful!

Jib and main ready for hoist

Getting closer to the Golden Gate Bridge

Driving up the cityfront

Boats gathering

Lines

Jason trimming spinaker

Spinaker

Cruising to Red Rock

We’re racing!

Passing Alcatraz

Jason driving

Lots of boats still waiting to start

Passing Alcatraz

Approaching Red Rock

Almost finished

Done!!!

Start times

Actual wind speeds for the day

Today I am practicing being a loving person, which right now, means putting my own expectations for the day and evening aside to care for someone else.  It’s sort of tricky to deliberately have to confront my own selfish wishes and realize that the choice I need to make is who I get to be, and I’m glad that my choice today was to be a good person for someone else.  It feels good, and I am content with having made this choice.

In 2013 I hope to be more valuable to more people, to be more loving, kind, thoughtful.  To be a better listener.  To accomplish great things.  To have wonderful adventures.  To give myself permission to dream bigger, ask the hardest questions I can, and be as honest with myself and others as I can be.  It’s a great time to be alive, and I am blessed to be where I am.   My path is my own, and I’m excited to discover what lies around the next curve.  I am very happy to be here, now.

I challenge you to challenge yourself with doing something that is really hard and worth doing.  What that is is up to you — you know what it is you need to do.  Don’t let old excuses, thoughts or suggestions keep you from getting to where you need to go.  I’m going to do my best to do the same.

Did you have a good 2012?  Are you going to have a good 2013?  Please let’s do.

As a web designer who owns my own business, I have the option of working anywhere I can get a good Internet connection and mobile phone coverage. For a while I’ve been exploring different coffee shops / cafes in the East Bay and have discovered a couple of good indicators to tell you if it will be a good cafe for working or not.

#1: Check the Yelp Reviews

The first place I usually start when I’m looking for a new coffee shop to try is doing a search on Yelp (either Yelp.com or using their excellent iPhone app), usually searching for places nearby that match “coffee shop wifi”.  If you then filter by Rating and Open Now, the top picks will almost certainly be excellent places to try.  If you already know about Yelp, this is probably a “duh” type of recommendation, but if you haven’t tried it or used it a whole lot lately, give it a go.  For extra points, leave a review of your experience on Yelp to help others find the good stuff.

#2: Good Atmosphere

The best coffee shops are the product of love.  It’s a very hard business to be successful in, and some places do a very good job of letting you know how much care and thought they’ve put into creating the sort of environment you’ll be comfortable sitting in for hours.  Starbucks and Peet’s have done a good job of creating a consistent experience no matter which location you go to, but they will always be less interesting than a local, independent coffee shop will be.

#3: Business Card Boards

It’s a funny thing, but coffee shops that are beloved by “locals” tend to have a bulletin board, usually placed somewhat prominently, full of pinned-on business cards, fliers, and other community sharing resources.  They also will often have a lot of local event or show fliers for people to peruse.  If you find a thriving business card bulletin board, that’s a good sign you’ve found a good spot.

#4: Local Focus

The best coffee shops tailor their offerings to their local community.  This could include holding regular charity-focused events, using local coffee roasters, featuring local product makers and playing a role in the greater community.  If the coffee shop has a booth at the farmer’s market, bonus points.

#5: Artsy Art

Coffee shops are a great place to see some new artwork, and for artists to get exposure for their work.  Rotating art shows help stimulate your creative impulses, and also lend vibrancy to the atmosphere.

#6: Delicious Drinks and Tasty Pastries

This is another obvious thing to look for, but delicious, expertly prepared drinks are worth seeking out.  One way I’ll check for this ahead of time is to look at the Yelp pictures for a place.  If the lattes look interesting and like the barrista paid attention to what they were doing, that’s  a good sign of quality.  The ingredients that places use are also a good sign — organic Clover milk and fresh-roasted beans?  Yes please!  You can easily pay a bit more for a drink but that’s not necessarily a bad thing, particularly since the better places try to pay their employees living wages.

#7: Strong WiFi

Even if you have data tethering for your cell phone (as I do myself) it’s very nice to have good pipes for your Internet connection.  The best coffee shops can be full of people, all using their laptops, streaming music and YouTube videos, and you’ll still have a fast and reliable connection.  It’s not a bad idea to ask if there’s a password when you’re ordering your drink.

#8: Sofas, Seats and Tables

I enjoy coffee shops that have comfortable places to sit and stay a while.  I don’t mind working with my laptop on my lap, so working on a couch is feasible for me.  Some days I prefer a table instead, and having available seating is key.  The most popular coffee shops will be pretty packed, but you should still be able to find a spot.  Having a variety of seating options is very nice.

#9: Power to the People

Power outlets can be a precious commodity.  One pro-tip is to bring a 3-way splitter.  That way you will never go without power for your laptop — you can always sneak in.  Most of the coffee shops I spend a lot of time in have ample power outlets (another thing you can check for in the comments people leave in Yelp reviews).  This makes spending more time there feasible, because otherwise it will be a max of a couple of hours before the power runs out.  You know a coffee shop is serious about attracting regular in-shop workers if they provide power strips so there is always an outlet for everyone.

#10: Get Friendly

Coffee shops are an excellent place to meet new people.  Express some interest in what people are doing around you, but don’t be overbearing, or interrupt when they’re in the middle of something.  I’ve met a number of new clients just by sharing what I was working on, or talking with people about their projects.

#11: Clean Bathrooms

Clean bathrooms are a good sign of a well-kept coffee shop.  You’re going to have to go, so it’s nice when the bathrooms are kept tidy and are regularly attended to.

#12: Walkable or Bikeable?

I usually prefer to walk or bike to work — it’s a nice addition to the day to get a little bit of outdoor exercise.  If a coffee shop is bikable or walkable, that moves it up in my list.  If you need to drive, then good parking is another thing to check for.

#13: Bring Headphones or Earplugs

If you get distracted easily, bring a good pair of headphones or earplugs and you can listen to music (or just quiet the background noise)

#14: Don’t Forget to Tip!

Barristas don’t make a ton of money.  If you find a place you like, be sure to leave a tip every time you make a purchase.  It helps keep a good atmosphere, and you won’t overstay your welcome.  You’ll be one of the regulars.  You want to be a net positive addition to the environment, and everyone appreciates being appreciated.

#15: Get Out There and Explore

Don’t get stuck in only one coffee shop, forever.  Explore your local options and see what you like the best about each place.

My current local favorite coffee shops to work at in in the East Bay:

Berkeley: Local 123, A ‘Cuppa Tea

Oakland: Actual Cafe, Nomad Cafe, Bica, Spasso, Arbor Cafe, Gaylord’s

Lafayette: Panache Cafe

Walnut Creek: Cafe La Scala

What are your top criteria for coffee shops?  Where should I try next?

I enjoyed a lovely walk today. I’m house-sitting with my girlfriend and while she was at work helping customers with getting water turned on or turned off, I took a quiet day to reflect, enjoy the brisk weather and have a lovely walk.

Tomorrow, December 21st is the winter solstice — the shortest day of the year. These are dark times… literally. We get smaller amounts of sunlight each day. Sometimes I forget to see what the world has to offer. When this happens I try to put my head out the window, and look up.

How to survive this moment in time:

1. Look outside.
2. If the sky is grey, rejoice in how wonderfully, powerfully grey it is. If it is sunny blue, smile and marvel that you get to enjoy this. If it is raining, be glad for the wet nourishment of the earth. If you have snow coming down on your eyelids, open your mouth wide and taste the frozen sensation of sky particles falling to earth. If you have wind, feel it blow your hair and the pressure on your skin. If you have fog, then marvel at the world as it resolves and dissolves around you.

Realize that tomorrow, and today, and the day after the next, it all is here to be enjoyed, if we can just see it for what it is. After tomorrow, the days will once again get interestingly longer bit by bit until it’s time to switch gears again.

Claim your path, take time to appreciate the view, and walk it, one step at a time. You can do it!

What constitutes our authentic selves?  Who are we truly?  What is our real purpose?

I try to be honest.  I do not like it when people lie to me, and my basic assumption in life is that people will not lie to me.  I choose to, in general, be a trusting person.  Finding our truly authentic, or real, self, involves being able to dig underneath all the accumulated layers of crud that we pile onto our own perception of ourselves, and find the reality that constitutes our true core being.  It means not deceiving ourselves.  If we want to find authenticity, we have to have the courage to be really and truly honest with ourselves.

For me this means trying to ask myself, what is it that I truly want?  What do I really need?  Who am I?  Am I defined by others, or myself, or by some higher power?

If I want to be really honest with myself, I have nobody to blame when it comes to who I am.  I contain the product of all the environmental inputs I’ve ever taken in over the course of my lifetime, but part of that is also my own thought process, my own concept of who I am, my own beliefs about my purpose.  Others do not define me.  Even my parents, who maybe have had the most influence over my development as a person, do not define who I get to be, what I do, what I will accomplish in life.  My DNA does not define me.  My surroundings do not define me.

Authenticity means what is true or real.  We can observe this by looking at actions and results.  While actions do not always map to intentions, they come pretty close most of the time.  If we are acting with intentionality, thoughtfulness and purpose, our actions should reflect who we are.  I am defined by my actions.

What I do  is who I am.

Only by recognizing this, and living accordingly, can I express who I really am inside.  Every day I need to examine what I am doing and make sure that it represents my most true and authentic self.

I think it will make me a happier person in the long run.

Sometimes when I am trying to hear what someone is really saying it feels like I’m staring at a blank wall, not seeing (hearing) what is really there or being said. The problem is I’m not really listening.

To listen is to pay attention.

To really listen, we must stop thinking, planning, pondering, wandering. It requires utmost concentration and focus. We have to be in the moment, and look for every nuance and expression of what it is we are trying to hear. We must be open to the real meaning of what is being said. We have to be present.

I often find myself thinking about what I’m going to say next in a conversation, rather than really taking the time to absorb what is being shared with me. I have to resist strongly the urge to play devil’s advocate, even when there’s no good reason for me to do so. Sometimes presenting alternate perspectives is useful, but just as often the person talking just needs to be heard. I spend much of any given conversation thinking about what I am going to say, rather than really absorbing what the other person is saying.

My challenge to myself for 2013 is to practice deeper, more effective listening habits. I want to be truly present and with that attention, be a better listener.

Only once we have truly heard what is being communicated can we then move forward effectively with the next action.

It’s the end of 2012, and I’ve been thinking about the idea of creating value lately. What makes something valuable, what makes it good, what makes anything worth having? What makes a person valuable and worth having as a friend?

If someone behaves in a way that is considered valuable, especially in the context of a larger community, we say that they’ve acted with valor. There is honor in acting this way. The opposite of this is cowardice.

We measure value in terms of money — it is how we’ve standardized the exchange of value. If I do something of value for one of my clients, there is usually a transfer of money to recognize that. More important than the money, however, are the feelings, emotions, and communications that happen. Gratitude, fulfillment.

Why are the richest people rich? I think that most people who become rich arrive at that state of being because they have found a way to deliver or realize an extraordinary amount of value that they’ve been able to transfer to other people, which those other people then exchange their own value-units (money) for. Some folks do this in ways that I have no desire to emulate, and some are worth studying and learning from.

What should I be doing with my life? I’ve seen advice from people that we should follow what we love. Why? Because when we focus our time, attention, money, energy and soul into an activity, we get better at doing it. When we get better at doing it, we are able to communicate or transfer more value outwards.

My focus for 2013 is to try to deliver the maximum amount of value I possibly can to as many people as possible. — to try to give the most I can. Not for money, but because that is the person I want to be.

People who act unselfishly on the behalf of others are considered to be valorous — they are recognized as being valuable people, because of what they do. That is the person I want to be, not for glory, but for the true happiness that comes from being a help to others.

Please call me on this if you see me acting like a jerk, or if I can do better. And consider for yourself, are you prepared to commit to being the best version of yourself that you can imagine?

Pretty interesting info-graphic about the role of business on Facebook. I’d say it matches my own take on it — Facebook is where people spend time, and businesses and organizations that want to reach out to people need to have an active presence there.

Via: Vocus